Relationships and Compatability

Do you ever watch a situation comedy called Everybody Loves Raymond? The husband is a sportswriter, and is fond of golf as a hobby, as well as following sports, not only because it's his job but because he enjoys it. The wife, on the other hand, knows absolutely nothing about sports, doesn't seem to have any hobbies, let alone playing golf, and when husband and wife are together they have absolutely nothing in common to talk about. It's all about what the kids did that day, or the irritating stunt that the in-laws pulled, and so on.

Sure, it's a TV show and the characters are set up this way to give the maximum opportunity for scriptwriters to get some plot lines for the show, but frankly, there's a grain of tragic truth in the dysfunctional family on display here.

Husband and wife have absolutely nothing in common. Apparently they were attracted to each other physically, and are still attracted to each other physically, but is that enough to sustain a relationship? Sure, mask it with the difficulties of raising three kids for eighteen years, but when the last kid has left the nest, what is there for you to talk about or do? Many couples get divorced after their children leave the nest. They stayed together and were miserable, but they had to do it for the sake of the children.

What's the moral here? When you're looking for someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with, look beyond the merely physical. Does she like the same sports that you do? (Believe it or not, despite the cliches, plenty of women love sports!) Does she like cars? (Believe it or not, plenty of women love cars!) Is she in to aviation, for example? The sciences? Military history? In short, is she interested in at least a couple of the same things you're interested in? (And for women, of course, the question is vice versa.)

The myth that women like to hang out only with women, "jabbering" away, while guys hang out with guys and speak only of important things like the latest quarterback controversy, is a complete myth. Sure...there are women who are only interested in talking about "girl stuff" - and frankly, those are the women you should avoid, just as women should avoid guys whose sole avenue of interest is stuff in which you don't care about.

That's where online dating sites like FindTrueLove.com come in. The people who use these sites will put in all the information about their likes, dislikes and hobbies, so you know a bit about them before you even meet. You can check out profiles in the privacy of your own home, and find someone compatible, whom you can indeed, find true love with.