Truth In Advertising

 Whenever two strangers are meeting for the first time, talking, trying to figure out if they like each other well enough to meet in person, there's always a tendency to "stretch the truth." You want to impress the other person to ensure that they actually will go out with you. Then, when you meet, and the other person isn't as advertised, usually a bit of disillusionment sets in and the relationship is over...or at least severely strained.

It can be the physical things, like women detailing their measurements that are a few inches smaller here, a few inches larger there.... guys typically don't feel the need to respond in the same way - they're not ashamed of their beer bellies but they don't brag about them, either, or any other part of their body that a woman might want to know about. (Unless they're body builders – they are as obsessed with their measurements as women are, but that's a special case.) The average guy will hide whether or not he wears a toupee, stuff like that!

Anyway, usually people exaggerate other things - how much money they make, how good their jobs are - or that they've actually got a job at all, stuff like that.

Well, lying on your resume will get you in trouble at work, and lying on your profile, at online dating sites like FindTrueLove.com, can get you in trouble, too. If you build yourself up into something you're not, and are revealed as a fraud after the first or second date, typically your opposite number is going to become disenchanted and never want to see you again. Because you can't keep that stuff hidden - eventually it's going to be found out.

Whereas, if you'd just been honest to begin with - even underplaying your various skills and accomplishments - so that your date has the chance to discover things about you that they didn't know - pleasant things - the experience is a much more positive one.

So curtail your natural tendency to exaggerate a little bit.

There's other things to consider when filling out your profile. The photo you put up on your page, for example. Your pose in that photo says a lot about you. If it's a generic, staring straight out at the camera with a little smile, that's usually safe. It gives people an idea what you look like.

But these "sexy" photos that some people use..whether it's the pose or the clothing or both....they may signal, to other people, that you're promising more than you actually intend to deliver on the first few dates! So that's something to think about.

The purpose of using an online dating service - or any dating service, for that matter - is to find someone who will care for you because of who you are. Get started off on the right foot, by never pretending to be anything else.